Dating advice to Molly who wants to date her childhood boy friend. What would God want her to do?
Hello Luna! Remember Ben? Well,
you see, I’m 17 now, and we both obviously know that we like each other. We’ve
been growing up together! We’re best friends! I don’t know what to do. Do you
think that it’s a bad idea to date him? I mean, we've been so close for such a
long time, and I don’t want to blow down anything. I don't want our relationship to break apart. Do you think it’s unholy to
date? I haven’t talked to my mom about this, and I don’t even know what God
wants me to do. How do I know what to do Luna? Ben is a very nice guy, I know
he likes me, and I like him very much too.. AHHH!! I don’t know what to do
anymore. What advice's do you have on dating? I need to figure out what to do.
Thank you Luna! Please pray for me as I am in confusion. God bless!
Love, Molly
Hey Molly!
Yes, Ben really has been by your side all the
time. He is a very nice guy, and both of you look like you guys have a lot of
fun when you guys are together. You guys are like siblings! I honestly think
that you guys don’t have to take things too fast. Have you talked about this
with God? I mean, both of you are still teenagers, and you still have a
lifetime to get together. I honestly think that it’s safer to date later on
when both of you are wiser and can be more serious. Remember that whatever God
does, he always has a bigger plan. Jeremiah 29:11-13 says 11 For I know the plansI have
for you,” declares theLord,
“plans to prosperyou and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.12 Then
you will callon me and come and prayto me,
and I will listento you.13 You will seekme and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
You
also got to know that he’s still in a growing stage. Around this time, teenage
boys usually have thoughts of lust. It’s just how they work. He might want to
get with you to fulfill his sexual desires. Matthew
5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already
committed adultery with her in his heart. That is why it’s
really important to talk to God and know what he wants you to do. You have to
put God in the center of the relationship. Talk to him about the relationship.
You can also help Ben by wearing more modest clothes. That will help him from
having bad thoughts about you. If you wear revealing clothes, it tempts the
guys to think of you as an object. They tend to focus on the meat that’s on
your body, and not you as a person. It's just how men are winded.
When
you have a boyfriend at this age, it’s also very tempting to do sexual actions
with them. A first kiss can lead to many different temptations. God says that
being sexually immoral, is not what he intends. 1
Thessalonians 4:3 It is
God’s willthat you should be
sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality Ephesians 5:3 But among you there must
not be even a hint of sexual immorality,or
of any kind of impurity, or of greed,because
these are improper for God’s holy people. Your body is a temple of God. Keep
your body holy for God, and for the man God has already chose. Talk about the
boundaries you want to set between both of you. You both have to be committing
to the boundaries you both set. No kissing? No holding hands? If you have
struggle knowing where your boundaries should lie, you can also ask your
mother!
Don’t take
things too fast Molly, and remember that things can always wait. The longer you
wait, the better it gets. Always talk to God, and have him in the center of
your relationship with Ben! I hope that I was able to help you Molly! It may
also be a good idea to talk about this with your parents. Let them know where
you are standing in your dating life. May everything go well! Please talk to me or
email me again if you have any questions!